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7 Tips to Have MORE Energy to Get Through Your Workday

Do you hit a dip in your energy at work every day at 3:00? You probably even wake up feeling low energy.

As a high performer that has a tendency to overwork, you’re typically spending more energy than you’re replacing each day.

Think about your energy like you do any of your batteries.

At some point, you stop using the device so it can get a full recharge. When do you do that for your body? And the more important question – when do you let yourself FULLY recharge?

I know what it’s like to overwork and run below empty. I’ve reached my breaking point twice in my career overworking as a high performer. I guide my high performing clients to create sustainable work/life balance in their lives.

7 Tips to Have More Energy to Get Through Your Workday

As you go through this list, note what is the most important to you AND what you don’t think is a priority as well.

1. Have a start time for your workday.

Everyday have a set time or a moment where you actually start working. This should not be when you first wake up. Be intentional when you wake up so you create a calm and balanced start to your day that can only make your productivity even better during your work day.

I have a client that woke up and started thinking about work. She was EXHAUSTED. Now she has a set start day each day and this has been a game changer for her in her productivity and energy levels.

2. Take your breaks.

No alt text provided for this image — I took this picture on a hike. Stop and notice the beauty around you – and notice – it’s NOT working hard!

You are not given breaks to work through them. Obviously if you’re on a roll and knocking things out, that’s not the best time to take a break. BUT when you find yourself getting tired, your mind starts wandering, you’re hungry, need to go to the bathroom, etc. use that time to take a break. Breaks allow you to recharge, reassess what you’re working on and create better results. Take them!

Most of my clients don’t take breaks before working with me. I get it! You get things done and more things appear. There are more things to do than time. But you’re a human, your body cannot sit at the computer for too long – plus your productivity goes down. Breaks are good.

Go for a quick walk. Stop and smell the flowers. Go outside for a minute. Whatever you do – take your breaks!

3. Eat your lunch WITHOUT working.

The majority of my clients either skip lunch altogether and find themselves eating junk at 3 o’clock or they work through lunch.

If you take your lunch break and work through it – you have a working lunch which is okay once in awhile but not everyday.

Lunch is a time to fuel your body, recharge, reassess your day and reprioritze tasks when you come back from lunch with a fresh perspective.

4. Have an end time for your workday.

Having an end time for your workday is essential so you STOP working. If you don’t do this, you’ll find yourself working weird hours and when you shouldn’t be. I can’t tell you the last time I had a client start working with me that had a STOP time on their workday.

What you don’t finish today, you can do tomorrow or another day. You are here for more than your work. Plus when you stop working, you give yourself time to play, recharge, relax, etc and that allows you to come back to work the next day more productive.

It doesn’t matter if the end time is the same everyday or set on certain days. Have an end time. This will help you prevent burnout.

5. Do at least one thing everyday that brings you joy.

I know this is hard for my high performers to even bring to mind when asked what brings them joy, but it’s very necessary. What are you working so hard for?

Again, you are here for more than your work. When work is your hyper focus, it’s hard to know what outside of work would bring you joy or happiness but in order to have work-life balance, there must be a life part happening.

Try new things, do things that make you happy. Play. Have something to do other than work outside your work hours. Give yourself something to look forward to – that’ll help you stop working.

6. Get enough sleep at night.

One of the big areas my high performers try to make up on time is by skipping sleep. As you know, the more sleep you get, the better you feel, the better you respond, the more productive you are.

One of my clients would read instead of sleep once the kids and husband were in bed. It was her time to do something for just her. The problem – she wasn’t getting the sleep she needed at night. The book would pull her in and she’d be up way later than she wanted to be and she was exhausted the next day. That affected her patience, her productivity and was an old pattern she was done repeating. Now she has the tools to get to bed at a time that supports her AND normal hours to read and do things just for her.

Sleep is a great way to recharge your body. Don’t skimp on this. Especially since lack of sleep can add to stress, something else you’re trying to reduce.

7. Make self care a priority.

Self care is HOW you recharge. This is what stops you from feeling overworked, overwhelmed and exhausted.

I find that a lot of high performers don’t know what counts as self-care. I define it as an activity that gives you energy. It has nothing to do with work or taking care of anyone or anything else. It is purely for you to recharge your energy.

Getting your hair or nails done while checking messages or emails is not going to count. Going for a walk without checking on anything work related does count.

Ideally, I’d love for you to implement every tip I just went over immediately. But I am very realistic since I work with very busy high performers. I’d love for you to pick one thing from this list and start doing that tomorrow. Tell me what you’re going to do tomorrow below, I’m holding you accountable.

Now look at what you didn’t think was a priority from the list above and dive deep and ask yourself why that isn’t a priority for you.

Every tip I gave you is very realistic and every high performer I work with is doing every single one of these things and noticing a huge difference in their lives.

Remember, overworking does not give you more energy. It spends your energy, no matter how much you love your work. The more energy you overuse each day, the less energy you start off with the next morning. This continues to compound until you reach your breaking point or until you burnout. Burnout is completely preventable.

Am I an Empath? What is an Empath & How it Affects You

I feel everything. I am highly sensitive and the people I’m around drain me. Am I an Empath?

This is a very popular question.

Claiming to be an empath right now seems to give you permission to get stuck in exhaustion and overwhelm by picking up on everyone’s energy without any support or boundaries – but it doesn’t have to be that way.

As a Spiritual Medium, I personally feel the energy of the people around me as if it’s my own energy. It allows me to balance and align your energy BUT I’m always on. I have to be able to function in society and so do you.

If I’m always on and have found a way to stop absorbing all the energies of everyone and everything around me – so can you.

If you’re busy absorbing and feeling all the feels of everyone around you – then you don’t have the energy to make yourself a priority and this video is for you.

First of all, YES. You are an empath. Every single person is an empath. Some people are just more open than others. Some people have shut off their empathic abilities because they were too overwhelming to deal with or because of something that has happened and they don’t want to feel it all anymore.

Now that you know that you ARE an empath, What is an empath?

The definition of an empath from Oxford Languages is: a person with the paranormal ability to apprehend the mental or emotional state of another individual.

An empath has the intuitive ability to pick up on the energy of others that are around you. You’ll know how they’re feeling, what energy they’re giving off and if you want to be around them or not. Every living thing on the Earth gives off energy and as humans, you have the ability to read that energy.

The best examples of being an empath are when you can meet someone and know if you like them or not. You can walk into a room of strangers and know who you want to sit with and who you don’t. You can look at someone and know if they’re in a good space or if they’re in a bad space.

You are an energetic being reading the energy around you. But just because you can read it doesn’t mean you have to take it on. You can just read it.

As an empath, You do not have to personally take on all the energy and let it affect you.

Remember this – you are made up of energy. And because you are made up of energy, you are able to read the energy of every living thing and the energy every living thing has given off. Even though you can read the energy, that doesn’t mean you have to do anything with the energy.

As you know, I’m a Spiritual Medium and I LIVE in energy all day, everyday. I have no off switch. Everywhere I go, I’m able to read people’s energy, their past lives, their fears, patterns, beliefs and so much more and I’ve been doing this my whole entire life. I know that what I experience is even more heightened than most people but you won’t ever see me ever walking around saying, “Oh my gosh, I’m so exhausted I’m an empath and I take on all the energy around me.”

I learned a long time ago that just because I can read someone’s energy, doesn’t mean I should. Especially if I’m not working with them and I don’t have their permission to help them. Most people don’t want to be helped. They want to be as they are, even if they’re complaining.

I realized decades ago that if I take on someone else’s energy, I just doubled the energy.Let that sink in. When have you picked up on someone’s energy and still had it after seeing them?

If you take on someone else’s energy, you’re carrying that weight for them. You took on their energy. They will get out of your energy by leaving your space and they’ll actually look around for their baggage – the stuff you just picked up from them to “help them out”. They’ll realize something is missing and they want their baggage back. It’s theirs. It’s like a comfy sweater to them – until it’s not and they’re ready to let it go. The moment they put their baggage back on, the energy has now DOUBLED. You have it and they have it.

How did the energy double?

This is really important for you to be aware of.

When they took their energy back, you were still carrying it. You took it on as your own to “help” them without their permission. You didn’t consciously give the energy back to them. Most likely, you didn’t do a thing with the energy except pick it up and carry it and now you’re just feeling the weight of it. So in that moment, the energy doubled. You made a conscious choice to hold the energy for them for whatever reason. They wanted it back so they pulled the energy back to them instantly. Instantly. But you’re not aware of this and so you’re also still holding it because you made a decision to carry that energy for them.

Now, both of you are carrying this energy unconsciously. They’re fine with the weight of the energy they’re carrying but you’re not. You struggle carrying it because it isn’t yours. You have your own weight that you carry, that you think of as your own comfy sweater. From an energy standpoint, your baggage is your sweater and the baggage you just took on from someone else is a backpack that sits on top of your sweater.

It’s too much. You will feel the weight of the energy. It will lead you to feeling overwhelmed, exhausted and stuck. And this is an example of your encounter with just one person.

Imagine going into Costco the week of a major holiday and all the backpacks you carry unintentionally. Or think about the energy you’d pick up after a day at an amusement park or a crowded venue. It’s too much. You cannot keep picking up other people’s baggage. It doesn’t serve you. It actually slows you down and holds you back.

You can READ the energy without picking up and carrying the energy. You can notice that they feel off, sad or that they’re struggling. Most people are struggling and that’s ok. That is what they are choosing to do and until they choose to do something differently, you cannot help them.

Being an empath does not mean you have to be exhausted. It means that you have to be consciously aware of the energy you are allowing into your energy space. You have to be picky. You can’t just allow any energy into your space and if you do, you have to know how to not let it affect you.

Being an empath is not new.

What is new is talking about energy and that you can pick up on or read someone else’s energy.

Yes you are an empath. You have the ability to sense energy. Everybody does. What’s important is are you picking up everyone’s energy just because you can? When you do this, you want to ask yourself, why are you allowing your energy to get entangled and pulled down with the energy around you. Remember – this does not support you or help them. It hurts you.

Start paying attention to what you’re allowing into your energy space.

I cannot tell you how many people come up to me telling me they are exhausted and overwhelmed from everyone else’s energy. But what this tells me is that you need boundaries around HOW you’re using your energy.

Here are some good boundaries for you going forward:

1. You can read other’s energy and not do anything with it. It isn’t yours to handle anyhow.

2. If someone doesn’t ask you for help, they probably don’t want help. If you offer to help someone and they don’t want it, that’s fine. Respect that they don’t need help and you can let them be in their experience as they would like to be.

3. Do NOT carry other people’s energy. It doesn’t help them and it hurts you. It doubles the energy and you don’t want to double negative energy anymore.

Focusing on other people’s energy is a distraction for you. It keeps you from having the time and energy to do the things you really want to do.

How do you KNOW if you are taking on someone else’s energy?

The key is to catch it in the moment. To feel yourself FEELING their energy. It will lower your energy vibration. It’s like using any of your devices, when you start to drain the device, the energy will lower. The same is true for you.

Instead of saying I’m an empath, I feel all the feels and it’s exhausting. Know that you can be an empath and be grounded and balanced no matter what is happening around you. You can be better at your work and relationships because you can tell that someone is off or in a good place. You can read the energy without having to do anything with the energy. This will allow you to stay focused on what you need to do.

I hope you will listen to the tips I gave you in this to help you reclaim your energy as an empath. You can watch this on video here if you’d like.

From Stressed to Thriving: Getting to the ROOT of Your Stress

What stresses you out? (You know this!)

What do you DO about it? (Typically nothing – but… you could really use a vacation to reset.) But going on vacation isn’t a change. Sometimes it’s a break from the grind, but often you’re still working on vacation or thinking about it. And when you come back from your getaway – you go right back to doing the same thing. Being stressed!

This is the problem – you know what causes you stress and you keep doing the same thing. Hopefully you don’t expect a different result because if you don’t make a change, nothing changes.

While you can justify all the stress in your life that’s negatively affecting everything, there will come a time when you can’t. Where this isn’t working anymore. It’s what I call your breaking point.

Stress leads to overwhelm, anxiety, exhaustion, health problems and burn out. It hurts you and your relationships. You know this, but you have to do ____ and stress is just a part of it, right? NO!

Stress is a sign that you are pushing yourself at YOUR capacity. Your whole being feels this stress and it’s telling you something has to change. You will see the results of your stress in your relationships, eating, sleeping, your health, your actions, your thoughts, your beliefs, your patterns and more.

Stress will take you down. There is no medal for struggling through each day. So why do you keep doing it? Insert – it’s familiar, I have to, I don’t know what else to do. Also insert – this isn’t working anymore. Time for something NEW.

I Don’t Like How I Feel

You’ll feel like a completely different person when you’re stressed, like something is taking over you. From an energy standpoint, that MEANS that something else has energetically taken over you. You won’t like how you feel and you’ll feel like you’re out of control.

Think of it as you saying, “I can’t do this myself.” And an energy (typically negative because you aren’t in a good space energetically when you do this) will step in and literally take over. Once you’ve given an energy permission to do that, it will easily slip in and feed on that negative energy and it becomes a pattern.

The problem is you’re not in control when another energy steps into your vibration like that. You literally hand over your keys.

What to do:

Clear the energy.
When you feel like you can’t do something, let go of that belief in that moment and say, “I am supported. Everything works out in the best way possible for everyone involved.”
Do the inner work every day, throughout the day to reduce your stress. Energy work helps you calm, balance and align your energy. It’s amazing!
Create more BALANCE in your life. The more in balance you are, the better you will feel, the less negativity you will bring into your life.

You should ALWAYS feel like you. If you don’t, you are handing your energy and power over. That doesn’t help you, that creates more problems for you and adds to unnecessary struggling. As a Spiritual Medium, I cannot stress the importance of standing in your power enough. You don’t need any more negativity in your life: I am free. I stand in my power.

How to Stop Your Stress Patterns

You know what adds to your stress, what will tip you over the edge and when you’ve pushed yourself too far. Once you’re in the stress, it’s harder to pull yourself out of it but you can’t stay in the stress for long without getting sick or an injury.

As a successful woman, the key to not getting STUCK, no matter how stressful your job or life is and to ideally catch yourself before you go into your stress patterns:

Have an inner work practice in place every day, throughout the day that helps calm, balance and align your energy
Say no to things that you don’t want to do or have to do
Create a life-work balance
Take breaks, lunches and 2 days off a week (the hustle is not sustainable)
Get plenty of sleep each night, not the bare minimum (game changer!!!)
Hire support to help you stay in balance

Remember, it is easier to keep yourself out of stress than it is to pull yourself out of it when you’re stuck in it. Your patterns are strong, you don’t even think about them – you just keep repeating them.

The key is to create a change and that’s what I help my clients do with my abilities as a Spiritual Medium. Aligning and balancing your energy helps you get on your best path each day.

Ready for some support to shift your energy? You can find my books here. To help you destress and balance your energy, I highly recommend “In Light & Love: My Guide to Balance”.

When Everything is Falling Apart & You Don’t Know What to Do

It feels like your world is falling apart and there is nothing you can do to stop it or fix it.

You’ve lost control. You don’t know what to do. You don’t know what your life will look like. You may even feel like you’re losing a part of your identity.

How did I get here?

How do I fix this right now and get back to normal?

Your instinct is to try to put it all back together again as quickly as possible and exactly as it was – but that doesn’t work. It’s still falling apart. You feel lost, hopeless and have no idea what to do.

It feels like everything is stopped – frozen. Time is going by slowly. You don’t know what to do… and you just want to put it back together again. The way it was wasn’t so bad after all…except that it really was if you’re being honest with yourself.

Why Things Fall Apart

While your life may appear to be just fine, underneath it all, you know that you aren’t happy. You haven’t been happy for awhile but you kept doing the same thing hoping for a new result. But it doesn’t work that way, you keep having the same experience instead.

It’s not working as it is, even if it APPEARS to be. The job. The significant other. The volunteering. Your life is off and while it may seem like it’s falling apart, I like to look at it as falling into something new, something better, even if you can’t see that possibility right now.

Let’s clear this up – if it was working, it wouldn’t fall apart. While it may be difficult to see in the moment, things fall apart so you can step into the new.

The way that things are in your life aren’t right for you anymore and the ONLY way you were going to make a change was if you had to. By everything falling apart, it forces you make the changes you’ve been ignoring, dreading or were unsure how to do. And know this – all is well, even if it doesn’t appear to be in the moment, it is!

What to Do

Flowing through this big change really is KEY. Your routine, goals, plans and certainty is all off.

It’s time for you to do the inner work. Heal the things it is time to heal and refill those areas (like your chest and stomach) with positive energy. Surrender the fear of the unknown.
Create new, supportive routines. Often you are stuck in routines just because that’s what you were taught to do, but do routines that are actually SUPPORTING you.
Get clarity. What is it you would like to do and who would you like to spend time with. Define what success actually means to you, not your family and start creating YOUR success.
Spend time out in nature. Go for a walk, a swim, take your shoes off and connect with nature. It’s amazing how quickly it shifts your energy and helps you connect with your intuition.
Trust that EVERYTHING will work out in the best way possible. You are supported! And if you don’t feel supported, hire support for this transition.

Create a Life You Love

Use this shake up to get more focused on loving your life and get less focused on the goals and hustle.

Do more things that bring you happiness and joy.
Spend time with people that lift you up – and that you lift up as well.
Make self-care a priority.
Redefine what success means to YOU. When your plan changes, make a new plan!!

My clients come to me when everything is falling apart and they’re at their breaking point. I’ve helped them through relationship break ups and divorces after 10 to 25 years together and have them dating again. I’ve worked with successful women that were stuck in hustling and being everything to everyone and making under 6 figures to making mid 6 figures and actually enjoying this life they’ve created.

Things fall apart for a reason. You may not know what that reason is at this moment, but at some point you will and it will all make sense. What is it time for you to do differently in your life?

Ready for some support to shift your energy? You can find my books here. Each book has a different focus to help you on your journey.

Relationship Problems Don’t Disappear, They Grow – How to Solve Them Instead

“I don’t want to deal with it.”

“If I ignore it, it’ll go away.”

“I don’t have the time to deal with this.”

“I don’t know what to do about ____, so I’ll just wait and see what happens.”

None of these statements will make your problems disappear. Problems don’t just disappear – they grow.

The stories I have heard as a Spiritual Medium through the years! Something so little can quickly destroy a marriage, a partner, a work or family connection and irreparably burn bridges and it’s often completely preventable!!!

Unfortunately they often take on a life of their own and end up being way bigger than they started. The answer isn’t ignoring them – unless you want a much bigger and often unrelated problem later. The answer is ADDRESSING the problem as quickly as possible – even if you are a drama avoider.

Your focus should be on love and getting more love back into the relationship. It boils down to communication. You must communicate with the other person and listen to them. Communication is KEY and it’s the only way you will find a solution.

How to Address a Relationship Problem

Listen and understand. This doesn’t mean you agree with their side, but to have a common ground, you have to understand where they are coming from just as they should understand where you are coming from. Listen to listen. Don’t just sit there thinking about what you want to say or how wrong they are. Find a common ground.
Pay attention. Most people do not like confrontation and will do whatever they can to avoid it. If someone is coming to you with a problem, give it your undivided attention now and I promise you, it won’t get to be a bigger problem later. A lot of my clients do NOT like confrontation. But ignoring a problem will inevitably bring you drama and more problems. Instead, address it and move forward as quickly as possible.
Speak clearly. Do not tell them what they want to hear to just make this go away. Say what you mean to say and do what you say you will do. “I feel ___”, is the most powerful statement you can give someone to help them understand where you are coming from. It’s not facts, it’s how you feel and it has to be acknowledged and addressed. People do not want to be guessing how you feel or what you’re struggling with. When you communicate real solutions, everyone is happier.
Be aware of your triggers. Whenever there are relationship problems, it’s always easiest to point your finger at someone else – but this doesn’t fix, change or solve anything. Notice what you are bringing to the conversation and is it elevating the relationship or bringing it down? It is your job and responsibility to energetically be aware of what you are holding onto and why as this affects your relationships.
Make a plan. The problem will not go away if you keep doing the same things repeatedly. Make a plan that you both agree to (compromise will likely be involved) and hold each other lovingly to your agreement. The goal is to move forward, not stay stuck in the past.
Focus on the problem at hand. Not every problem you’ve had over the decades – each problem is addressed individually, a solution is found, and you both move forward. You only bring it up again if they aren’t doing what they committed to doing and make sure you are committed to your promises. Do not keep bringing up the same problem, especially when they bring a problem to you. This shows that you are staying stuck in the past and not willing to move forward with them.

Your relationship goal is to be happy! Not angry, bitter or scheming ways to punish the other person. That makes everyone miserable and creates more problems. Let’s get back to love, peace and happiness in your relationships.

The only way to go forwards is to stop looking backwards. Work together and stop fighting each other. The faster you address a problem, the better everyone will feel.

Ready for some support to shift your energy? You can find my books here. Each book has a different focus to help you on your journey.

Reset NOW- Rewrite Your Story

What’s your STORY?

The one you tell yourself on REPEAT that holds you back and keeps you from truly loving your life?

Perhaps it’s, “I’ll be happy after I crush this next goal.” Or, “My relationships don’t last because they keep ________.” Or, “I want to do fun things but I don’t have the time.”

Your story is an old pattern that you PULL into your life, usually when things are going well. It gives you permission to self-sabotage and pull yourself out of the abundance you are receiving. And it keeps you from loving this amazing life you’ve been so busy creating.

This old story doesn’t have to guide you anymore – unless you like being stuck and frustrated that nothing is changing – you have the power to create a new story.

How to Rewrite Your Story

You can’t create a new result with the old story. You have to let the old story go and write a new one and when something comes up where you’d tell yourself the old story, you have to tell yourself your new story instead.

What is your story?
What happens when you tell yourself this story?
What would you like to happen instead?

When things are going well and you start to fall into old patterns and start to self-sabotage:

STOP immediately. Catch yourself in the pattern and release it by saying, “I’m not doing this anymore.” Let the past go. You can take what you learned from the experience WITHOUT carrying the energy of the experience.
Focus on what is working well and be truly grateful for the amazing experiences that are happening in your life right now – like the thing you were just trying to self-sabotage. Being grateful brings you into the present moment and this is where your power is. Right here, right now!
Shift the energy that is creating your experiences. Create an energy practice to help you reduce your stress and have more balance. Energy affects everything. The better place you are in energetically, the less likely this old story will appear.
Rewrite your NEW story. When that old story appears, this is what you do:

Appreciate your experience, everything happens for a reason:

When __________happened, it was a journey for me to ____________. I am grateful for this experience. I let it go and I am free. Now I will only tell my NEW version of the story.

My NEW story is:

Because of ____________ (my experience) it allowed me to ___________ (grow, stand in my power, express myself, etc.). I am stronger because of this experience and now I can _______ (what good came to you because of your experience).

I am____________.

Going forward, focus on the positive from the experience. What you learned, what skills you now take with you, and how you are a better person because of this. If any negativity comes up, you have more clearing and letting go to do until you can tell the story without falling back onto the pain, hurt, etc.

Lisa's live event in March 2021. Clients wrote what they're grateful for from their experiences.

What new story will you write today?

Just because you’ve been following an old story doesn’t mean it is the right story for you anymore. You can shift and create a new story for any scenario in your life at any time. All you have to do is be ready!

Ready for some support to shift your energy? You can find my books here. Each book has a different focus to help you on your journey.

A Spiritual Medium’s Guide: How to BREAK FREE from a Long Term Relationship

Leaving a long-term relationship is not easy. It’s not something you do lightly.

You can’t eat. You can’t sleep. You cry all the time. You feel like you’re letting them down. You’re letting the family down. You feel guilty for the relationship ending.

Chances are you have done everything you can think of – even things recommended to you to make this relationship WORK – not end. You’ve done the self-help books, seen a therapist, and maybe even tried some energy work, meditation and yoga. Yet here you are – at a place where you feel stuck and don’t know how to do what you have to do.

What you didn’t want to do – leave this relationship of ___ years.

It’s hard. I know, I have helped so many women through relationship endings I can’t even give you a number. I have heard all the reasons that make it hard:

You don’t want to start over.
You don’t know what to do next or what the future looks like.
You have responsibilities.
You don’t want to lose your money or retirement.
This ending makes you feel like a failure (but remember, relationships take 2 active participants!)

Usually you will hit your breaking point – a point where you have done all you can and it is time to move on in your relationship with your spouse or partner of __ years.

Most relationships do not last a lifetime. They have a season. When that season is getting ready to end on a relationship, it can throw you into a tailspin and leave you feeling stuck and completely out of balance. Sometimes for decades but it doesn’t have to be that way.

How You Get Stuck

Even if the relationship is bad for you and you know it’s no longer a fit, it is hard to move on for many reasons:

You are emotionally attached to your relationship.

You’ve been together for __ years. Even if you leave, you find yourself emotionally stuck, recreating the exact same relationship with someone else or so hurt from the experience that you cling onto it years, even decades later.

My client’s have left relationships after 10 years and 20 years and they didn’t think they could do it even though they wanted to and now they are LOVING their lives. They are doing things they love, they’re starting to date and they are so happy they left. They cannot believe the transformation. The longer you prolong the inevitable you keep yourself from living a life you will love.

It’s familiar.

Even though it’s broken, it’s safe. You know EXACTLY what to expect.

You know the patterns, the routines and you have hoped for so long that something would change and it would get better. Even if the relationship was emotionally abusive, it’s familiar.

It’s a vicious cycle. Even when you leave, you still hope for a change in the other person that doesn’t come. If they haven’t changed, they aren’t going to. No one changes until they are READY and chances are they aren’t changing anytime soon.

You’re afraid.

There are so many fears – being alone, the financial implications, moving, boundaries, the unknown, what will this person think, how will this affect ___.

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard from clients, “I don’t want to give them my money.” This statement will REALLY hold you back for years and then health issues will start to appear. I’ve seen it time and time again. I’ve helped clients realize that the more money they make, the more they can truly live the life they envisioned. Don’t focus on them. Focus on YOU and YOU being FREE!

Or “I take care of them, what will they do?” They are an adult. I promise you, they will figure it out. Taking care of them is what their parents did, not your responsibility as a partner. They will eat, get their laundry done, they will figure it out like the adult that they are.

Change is hard.

This is going to be a big change and you probably don’t like change but remember, life is a series of changes from the moment you are born. Nothing freezes in time. Change is all around you.

Even when you say you like changes, you don’t mean changes like this. You mean starting a new job. Buying a new car. Buying a new house. Fun changes.

I had a client that loved changes, she told me all the time until she left her husband. Then change was hard and she hated it. But luckily they both worked with me through the relationship transition and they’ve both moved on to create new lives that they love. He even went off to have the baby he always wanted and he’s engaged.

Change happens to help you create something NEW. I wrote a whole book on change with exercises to support you and keep you moving forward. Remember what’s harder than change, staying where you are. It can stifle you.

Eventually you will reach a point where it is harder for you to stay than it is for you to go.

And this is the moment you are ready and where I have decades of experience with clients using my intuitive abilities as a Spiritual Medium and I can support you in creating a life you LOVE again.

How to Transition OUT of Your Relationship

You have to be READY. Ready for help. Ready to leave. Ready for new and exciting possibilities.

You have to actually LEAVE. Wanting to leave and talking about leaving are not the same as actually leaving. If you are afraid to leave or are unsure what to do, get help. Especially in abusive situations, having support is key.

Drama is not the answer!! I see this ALL the time. Drama will hold you connected to this person energetically in this life and others (karma) and it will keep you from moving forward, being free and bringing in new opportunities. Remain as calm, peaceful and objective as possible.

The moment you are ready, you can dissolve the relationship and both of you can get back to creating a new life. One that you will both love.

Here’s what I teach my clients to do in the relationship:

Stand in your power When you stand in your power, you will feel better and create a life that you love. This is especially important for my clients that have left emotionally abusive relationships. Handing over your power leaves you helpless and out of control but once you recognize the patterns and start to stand in your power, you will love your life again.
Break the patterns. If you don’t break the patterns, you will keep creating the same situations with different people. The goal is to stop doing what got you into this situation and not recreate it ever again with another partner. Otherwise, there really is no point in leaving. Break the patterns!
Drawing and enforcing boundaries are key. They tell people what is okay and what isn’t. If you don’t draw boundaries, they don’t know. The majority of the population cannot read your mind. Boundaries aren’t bad and they don’t make you mean. They are necessary and help you stand in your power. Boundaries have been a game changer for my clients.
Energy work is vital to helping you stay in balance and in a good space energetically. The practice I teach all my clients is easy, has amazing results and doesn’t take a lot of time.
Start living a life that you LOVE. Remember that vision you had for yourself? It’s time to start taking steps towards that vision. You have that vision for a reason. Step into it and let go of the past. Learn from the past, don’t live in the past.
Create new, fulfilling relationships. Don’t sit at home alone with a bottle of wine, that will make you depressed. Surround yourself with people that lift you up and you lift up as well. Also, say goodbye to any other relationships that are no longer a fit, this is common when a relationship comes to an end. As you change, your friends change.

While a relationship coming to an end may seem like a failure, it’s not. Everything happens when and as it should. Remember, you tried EVERYTHING you could to make it work.

It’s the beginning of something new. You did the best you could, with what you had at the time. Stop judgement. Stop any blame. Be accountable and keep moving forward.

When you have tried everything you could to fix it all but no matter what you do, you feel it is time to END the relationship it’s important to not only free yourself, but them as well.

I have helped countless women end relationships and create a life that they love. They didn’t think it was possible and now they look back at how far they’ve come and they are GRATEFUL they left. Now they LOVE their life. You can too!

I am free. You are free. We are both free.

Move forward on your new path, heal your triggers and live a life you LOVE.

Ready for some support to shift your energy? You can find my books here. Each book has a different focus to help you on your journey.

5 Things You Should NOT Casually Ask a Spiritual Medium

You are so tempted to know what we’re seeing, reading, feeling and what we KNOW.

I get it but it takes energy for a Medium to tune in, read it and explain it to you.

One question is NEVER just one question.

I guarantee you’ll have a pile of questions, the venue is not appropriate for the work we do and you are not honoring our career, energy or time.

Remember, this is what the Medium gets PAID to do.

You’re asking for it for free and that is not okay from anyone ever. It’s like going up to a doctor at a restaurant with his family and asking him for a diagnosis. Then for a treatment protocol. Then another diagnosis and so on.

When you randomly ask a Spiritual Medium or any Medium these questions you are not respecting that this is their work and what they get paid to do. So PLEASE stop casually asking these questions!

The 5 Things You Should NOT Casually Ask a Spiritual Medium:

#1 How’s my energy?

Don’t do it! If you have to ask, your energy is not on point.

If you are in a good place with your energy, you KNOW.

When you’re in a bad place and you ask, this tells us you’re not going to do anything with our reading anyhow, so there is no point in answering.

If you really want us to read your energy, help you get it aligned and get you on your best path, hire us! Asking this question outside of a session isn’t going to get the results you want anyhow.

#2 Are there any spirits around me?

YES.

Every time I get asked that question it draws spirits around you immediately. Especially when the spirit has been trying to show itself to you and you haven’t been able to recognize it.

Outside a session, this is not a question to ask as it will stir up things for you, guaranteed and make you CRY!

Again, this is something that has to be done in session, where you feel safe and supported so you can heal and connect with your loved ones that have crossed over. Not at a party. Not when you meet a Medium and you’re not working with them. Only in session.

#3 Am I on the right path?

Look at #1 again! If you are asking this, you are not honoring a Medium’s time. How can we easily and quickly answer this question? We can’t.

If you are being really honest, you know if you’re on your path or not. You don’t need anyone to tell you. You feel the answer in your energy, mood, finances, and overall joy of life.

Don’t ask questions you already know the answer to. We can help you with so much, let’s work on the bigger stuff and actually get you on your right path.

#4 Is there anything you want to tell me?

The answer to this is NO!

If I wanted to tell you something, I would have been guided to do it in a very light and gentle way already. You don’t have to ask, we are guided.

Mediums are ALWAYS on. We don’t have an off switch. We read the energy of the event before we decide to go, the energy of the room and your energy before you even talk to us.

If we aren’t working with you in a session or we haven’t already said something we were guided to say, we aren’t going to voluntarily offer a reading – even if you ask us. Remember, our work takes a lot of energy.

#5 What do you think about __________?

These are questions for sessions only! Yes I can read your energy. Yes I know the answer in a second.

But they will trigger things in you and it shouldn’t be done outside of a session.

This is going to lead to a ton of questions, just like everything above this.

Instead, pay to work with me and the results will be beyond anything you expected. But you won’t get that just randomly asking the questions above. Especially since those situations are not private, quiet and don’t allow you to do the work as deeply.

I am confident that I speak for all the Mediums and Psychics in your life. If you want the answers, hire the support. It is transformational and up-leveling when you work with a Medium that is BORN with their gifts. If they aren’t born with them, they aren’t a Medium.

Note: I offer programs instead of a session here and there because I am here to help you breakthrough old beliefs, balance you energy and up-level your success. I do that by helping you clear, balance and align your energy. When you heal one layer, another layer appears to be healed. You’ve lived millions of lives, one session is only going to address what you’re dealing with at that moment.

The best way to get your head, energy and life on point is in a program that will support you throughout the year as you hit different triggers and experiences.

Ready for some support to shift your energy? You can find my books here. Each book has a different focus to help you on your journey.

My Unique and Untold Career Path as a Spiritual Medium

I was born a Spiritual Medium and it has affected every aspect of my life.

Growing up, I didn’t know a thing about my unique abilities as a Medium, coaching wasn’t around yet and I liked writing but becoming an author wasn’t on my radar.

My current reality wasn’t even an option. It didn’t exist to me!

I knew I wanted to help people heal and it has been a journey to do the work I do today.

How it all began…

Creating My Career

When I was in 6th grade, I had to write a paper about what I wanted to do when I grew up.

I remember tuning in to what do I want to be when I grow up in my 6th grade classroom for my paper. I wanted to be a nurse. I immediately saw a Red Cross truck and knew I wanted to go to Europe and help with the war.

That was it. I felt the energy, I was connected to it and I saw it clearly. I was going to be a nurse. Except…

I Was Seeing a Past Life

There was no war when I was in 6th grade for me to go to Europe to support. That should have been a sign to me!

My yearbook is filled with good luck in nursing school messages. I had the grades, I had the drive and ambition but I was seeing another life. Unfortunately, I didn’t know it at the time.

A life where my husband went off to war and I left our kids to join the Red Cross and help the soldiers with the mission of finding my husband. Which I didn’t do – but I did know him in high school in this life – he was fascinated with Germany and I was not interested in dating anyone in the military. Everything comes back around so we can heal and I did.

I went to nursing school thinking I would be a Hospice Nurse and help with the transition during death for everyone involved. It seemed like a perfect fit but there wasn’t much hospice experience and I HATED clinicals.

I would find myself on the bed talking to my patients about what brought them to the hospital, what problems they had in their life and helped them create a plan to get back to the life they originally envisioned.

– None of this was nursing and nurses don’t have time to do this kind of work. They are very overworked on the floor.

Everything Changed in One Exam

In my senior year with TWO classes to go, planning my Hospice Nursing Career and move to San Diego I FAILED my nursing final.

Failing a final is weighted to fail the whole class since it’s all about being prepared for the NCLEX.

Lisa book signing at an event in July 2019

Mind you, I was an A/B student. I had never failed a test like this in my life.

As we were walking out of the exam, my study buddy (this is a real thing in nursing school) couldn’t believe I didn’t remember a single question from the test as we had studied it all together and knew all the answers. I remember her looking at me with panic in her eyes.

I told her that during the test I felt like I was floating. I kept hearing, “It’ll be okay.” I remember looking around the room. Wanting to go to the bathroom and not being able to focus on a single question.

I got the results the next day from my study buddy – I failed.

At first I was in shock – but not really. I was more concerned about what I would do now. All of my college classes were nursing school focused.

I didn’t want to wait 2 quarters and retake the class. I was being pulled to live in San Diego and when I really surrendered and tuned in to my work, I saw myself doing coaching work like my aunt was in San Jose.

I left nursing school my senior year much to my family’s dismay and began something they didn’t understand.

Claiming My Abilities & Starting My Career

Looking back, it was CRAZY what I did starting my business in 2002. I listened to what I was being guided to do intuitively and no one could tell me otherwise – although they all tried.

Lisa working at a mastermind in San Diego in February 2020.

There was no social media and I had just moved across country from Columbus, Ohio to San Diego. I only knew my uncle, his girlfriend and her family. Luckily I was very guided.

When I said I was a coach they asked volleyball or basketball because of my height. Coaching was so new in 2002.

At first I partnered up and was going after work in organizations. But I preferred the individual and supporting them in letting go and clearing their energy.

I finished my degree after beginning again almost from scratch. I got my Bachelors degree from California State University San Marcos and had a 4.0 every semester! My degree focused on communication, sociology and psychology – all subjects relevant to the work I do today.

I stepped into my power, my abilities, I built a clientele basis and a following.

Creating My Programs

After 15 years of a session here, a session there or small mini packages, I was frustrated. The work I was doing wasn’t moving them forward, they were not getting enough to support to move forward. It was more of a fix me right now session.

I realized that in order to truly create the change my clients were seeking and support them, I had to offer packages. While a session made them feel amazing, the programs help them reach their goals and up-level their lives quickly and easily.

You are here and that means you are healing stuff.

Healing layers of old hurt, past lives, family patterns and more is what you are here to do. You’ll clear out some in one session. But when you’re looking at millions of lives and only being able to clear what YOU are ready to heal in this moment, that is not the work of one session here, one session there.

Programs give you the support and scheduled sessions to up-level your energy and your experiences. The shifts are powerful!

Being a Spiritual Medium Today

I don’t come across people in my life that don’t believe in what I do anymore. They exist but they aren’t in my vibration.

I do have family that still isn’t exactly sure what I do and with them I get to be on break. They don’t pull on me or ask anything of me energetically.

My clients however, they are drawn to me.

I have found my path and the nursing education helps me when my clients have health issues to see what is happening physically and energetically.

I am grateful for the experiences that have led me to where I am now. The work I do is powerful and life changing. While I took the career path less traveled, it was exactly what I was guided to do.

Ready for some support to shift your energy? You can find my books here. Each book has a different focus to help you on your journey.

An Insider’s Look at My Work as a Spiritual Medium

You’re either drawn to psychics and mediums or you’re not. There is no gray area but when you love them – you LOVE them.

Mediums are also psychics and are here to help you with something big in your life. Whether it’s connecting with someone that has crossed over or healing your energy, the work is more powerful because the way medium’s read, see, feel and work with energy.

If you google mediumship, most of us don’t tell you exactly what we do. We think you just know but we use our abilities in different ways.

I wrote about how I became aware of my abilities as a Spiritual Medium. Now I’m pulling back my curtain and telling you exactly what I can do with my abilities in my work as a Spiritual Medium.

1. My Abilities as a Spiritual Medium

I See Spirits and Energy

Spirits

While I can see, feel, hear and read the messages spirits give me, this is a small portion of the work I do as a Spiritual Medium.

My work isn’t in solving crimes or doing all the communication for you. It’s in helping you connect with them yourself so you can talk with them whenever.

I energetically bring you together in the same space, help you communicate with them directly (which is always the best way) with your newfound abilities and I help you heal anything that is lingering or unsaid.

The spirits always appear. They may not stay long but they always give a message and want you to know how to recognize them when they come back – whether it’s a feeling, a knowing, seeing or hearing them. You have the ability to connect with them too and I help you do that.

Energy

Providing mini sessions at an event I energetically supported in San Diego, November 2019

Energy is anything that gives off energy – people, plants, animals, the Earth.

I have the ability to become ONE with energy. I can feel energy that has been put onto something or someone such as a curse, worrying, or negative energy. I also feel the energy you are storing in your body in my body until it is cleared and aligned. I can also experience your past lives (you’ve had millions of them.)

Typically you store energy until you feel stuck or at your breaking point. I help you reset your energy and tap into your abilities so you can do it as well. I teach you to become aware of the things that are affecting your energy and others like:

The energy you are giving off
Your energy exchanges
Entities, negative energies, vampires, demons (whatever you like to call them – they’re all the same) that you allow to attach to you or come into your space
The energy you have stored in your body from this life or a past life experience
The energy you have taken on to “help” (but not really) others with their problems
What raises and lowers your energy vibration
What you store in your body when you’re angry and frustrated to “deal” with later and you never do.
Anything that negatively impacts you, your decisions, and how you feel.

To sum it up, I basically work in balancing your energy and getting you back to your natural state – a place of light and love. Added bonus – I do all of this remotely.

I am an Energy Healer

I see the energy you store, fragment and are ready to heal.

I do this by pulling you out victimhood, self-sabotage, unhealthy patterns, old beliefs, generational energy patterns, negative energy and anything else that tries to lower your vibration.

It starts with getting to the root of the energy that’s guiding you and then clearing out how it is manifesting in your body and your reality. Then we reprogram that area with positive energy and tell the mind what to focus on instead. You become aware of what you’re creating with your thoughts, words and patterns.

You feel like you had a massage but you were never touched. You feel free. Supported. Balanced. And most importantly, you learn what to do to reset your energy and mindset!

I am Psychic

I am psychic but I don’t call myself one because I have no interest in doing psychic readings. There is no power in that for you. That is why I combine my intuitive abilities with coaching and am a Mindset and Energy Coach – to empower YOU!

I use my psychic abilities to see your best path and help you get back on it.
I can read the people and situations in your life and help you get more objective and clearly see what is going on.
I can see your path choices, how things can go, what you should focus on and what it is time for you to heal.
I see what you are creating with your thoughts, words and actions and how to shift your reality to what you originally envisioned for yourself.

Free will is always there so my work is about teaching you how to navigate your life and tune into your own intuition, become aware of your gifts and listen to your body.

2. How I Work

I am Always Ready and On

With my abilities, I don’t have any prep that I have to do. I just tune into you and I’m there reading your energy, knowing what I’m here to help you with and ready to go once you tell me what you would like help with. It always comes back to me empowering you.

I can work remotely without ever seeing what you look like, what you do or who you are. In 2000 I worked with people on the phone without ever seeing them.
I have clients around the world that I don’t work with in person. Most of my work is through video conferencing.
I don’t have to see you to read your energy. I don’t research you or touch you. I prefer to not know a thing about you so it doesn’t taint what I’m seeing.
I don’t have to have any of your belongings or anyone else’s.
I just tune in, read the energy and feel what you are storing in your body. I know what is bothering you and why.
When I am working at a mastermind or event and I do individual work, with permission I will hold your hands to align you faster to accommodate our 15 or 30 minute time frame.

It is all about healing what it is time to heal and raising your energy vibration.

I Work in Light

My live event in November 2019 at Four Seasons Aviara

I am constantly in a beam of White Light. If I hear a voice it comes from the light and I hear it very clearly.

All the energy healing I do comes from the light. I am a channel for it. I don’t speak with angels and guides. I am not wired that way. I go straight up and I simply connect and know.

I Know Who to Work with and When

While I am always on and constantly reading energy, I have learned to only pay attention when I’m supposed to help someone with something. This means, I ignore a lot of the things I see and read because I’m not supposed to do anything with it.

I can only help when I am asked to help. You have to be ready.

Some people want to stay where they are. Some people like being stuck. Those aren’t my people. My people are career driven (majority women) at or near their breaking point that are ready to reset and get back to the lifestyle they originally envisioned.

I Empower You through Coaching

Coaching is my method of delivering my abilities because it empowers you and puts you in control of your experience.

I don’t want anyone dependent on me or any other healer, medium or psychic for a decision. You have intuitive abilities – listen to them!

I teach simple practices that are easy to do and the results my clients get are amazing!

While a session here and there was a huge part of my work for over 15 years, now I only work in programs. Why? Because a session here and there while amazing wasn’t helping you move forward. It was just a band aide until you reached a trigger that threw you completely off. By working with me for a set period of time, not only do we hit your goals but you have support for the different triggers you experience throughout the year so you keep up-leveling.

Whether it is hitting 60k months (some of my clients have 100k + months), leaving an abusive relationship, or helping my clients completely reset their lives to get back on track – they get back to their goals and to the original lifestyle they envisioned for themselves.

That doesn’t happen with a session here and there. It’s a commitment. It’s an up-leveling. It’s healing and freeing. It’s the long term work that I am here to teach you and support you with. The results are amazing and life changing.

Balance is Everything

I not only teach balance but I LIVE it!

Energy work at a live event on the beach in Spring 2019

I work with individuals and groups of all sizes. I become one with energy individually and in a group setting and know what to do to help you reset. My work is helping you get your head, energy and life on point.

It wasn’t an easy journey to get to where I am today in my career. Being a Spiritual Medium is absolutely about healing the energy in me so I can do the same for you. I do the energy work I teach every day throughout the day as needed. I also thrive because of my morning and evening routines.

The work I do is physically exhausting. I have to be in a good place physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. Boundaries and communication are important in my work. I balance my schedule, eat enough protein, have clear boundaries and make self-care a daily priority.

Balance is key for you too. How different would your life be if you were grounded, focused, aligned and empowered? Imagine being successful in all areas of your life. That’s what I help you do! Here’s a videoI made that talks about the different types of mediums, what I do as a Spiritual Medium and how I found my balance.

Ready for some support to shift your energy? You can find my books here. Each book has a different focus to help you on your journey.

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Here are some good boundaries for you going forward:

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Why Things Fall Apart

What to Do

Create a Life You Love

How to Address a Relationship Problem

How to Rewrite Your Story

How You Get Stuck

You are emotionally attached to your relationship.

It’s familiar.

You’re afraid.

Change is hard.

How to Transition OUT of Your Relationship

The 5 Things You Should NOT Casually Ask a Spiritual Medium:

#1 How’s my energy?

#2 Are there any spirits around me?

#3 Am I on the right path?

#4 Is there anything you want to tell me?

#5 What do you think about __________?

Creating My Career

I Was Seeing a Past Life

Everything Changed in One Exam

Claiming My Abilities & Starting My Career

Creating My Programs

Being a Spiritual Medium Today

1. My Abilities as a Spiritual Medium

I See Spirits and Energy

I am an Energy Healer

I am Psychic

2. How I Work

I am Always Ready and On

I Work in Light

I Know Who to Work with and When

I Empower You through Coaching

Balance is Everything

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