The one you tell yourself on REPEAT that holds you back and keeps you from truly loving your life?
Perhaps it’s, “I’ll be happy after I crush this next goal.” Or, “My relationships don’t last because they keep ________.” Or, “I want to do fun things but I don’t have the time.”
Your story is an old pattern that you PULL into your life, usually when things are going well. It gives you permission to self-sabotage and pull yourself out of the abundance you are receiving. And it keeps you from loving this amazing life you’ve been so busy creating.
This old story doesn’t have to guide you anymore – unless you like being stuck and frustrated that nothing is changing – you have the power to create a new story.
How to Rewrite Your Story
You can’t create a new result with the old story. You have to let the old story go and write a new one and when something comes up where you’d tell yourself the old story, you have to tell yourself your new story instead.
What is your story?
What happens when you tell yourself this story?
What would you like to happen instead?
When things are going well and you start to fall into old patterns and start to self-sabotage:
STOP immediately. Catch yourself in the pattern and release it by saying, “I’m not doing this anymore.” Let the past go. You can take what you learned from the experience WITHOUT carrying the energy of the experience.
Focus on what is working well and be truly grateful for the amazing experiences that are happening in your life right now – like the thing you were just trying to self-sabotage. Being grateful brings you into the present moment and this is where your power is. Right here, right now!
Shift the energy that is creating your experiences. Create an energy practice to help you reduce your stress and have more balance. Energy affects everything. The better place you are in energetically, the less likely this old story will appear.
Rewrite your NEW story. When that old story appears, this is what you do:
Appreciate your experience, everything happens for a reason:
When __________happened, it was a journey for me to ____________. I am grateful for this experience. I let it go and I am free. Now I will only tell my NEW version of the story.
My NEW story is:
Because of ____________ (my experience) it allowed me to ___________ (grow, stand in my power, express myself, etc.). I am stronger because of this experience and now I can _______ (what good came to you because of your experience).
I am____________.
Going forward, focus on the positive from the experience. What you learned, what skills you now take with you, and how you are a better person because of this. If any negativity comes up, you have more clearing and letting go to do until you can tell the story without falling back onto the pain, hurt, etc.
What new story will you write today?
Just because you’ve been following an old story doesn’t mean it is the right story for you anymore. You can shift and create a new story for any scenario in your life at any time. All you have to do is be ready!
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Lisa Gornall is a Spiritual Medium, Healer and Coach. She is also an author, speaker and offers event support and coaching program support for your clients.
Lisa uses her intuitive abilities to coach successful women at or near their breaking point to reset. Get your head, energy and life on point. Let’s get back to that freedom lifestyle you originally envisioned! Reset.
You are busy and have a lot on your plate. Just when you think you cannot add one more thing – here comes the hustle and bustle of the holidays!
As a career driven woman, the holidays often add to your exhaustion and overwhelm often taking you to your breaking point.
I used to hit my breaking point and find myself sick through the holidays and recovering in January but there is another way. You can reclaim your time, relationships, inner game and energy this holiday season with these 6 easy tips.
1. Pace Yourself
This can seem tricky when you’re already exhausted and over scheduled – but to get it all done and over with you cram everything into a day or two. Don’t try and do all your shopping after a packed work day. DON’T!
This is how you get sick, make mistakes and snap at people. Instead, simplify your schedule for the WHOLE holiday season and create a balance with family, friends, co-workers or team members, activities, etc. Expand your time instead of overbooking.
Also, give yourself extra time to get stuff done! Things always take longer than you thought they would.
When you pace yourself this holiday season, you’ll find it brings you more joy and less exhaustion. Added bonus, time will feel like it’s moving slower.
2. Don’t Over Commit
You like to show up and be there for everyone. You probably end up doing more that you need to. I get it! But when you over commit you end up cancelling on things last minute because you are so exhausted and overwhelmed.
Instead, look at your schedule and make sure it is balanced. Leave space in for last minute things that WILL come up that you’ll want to do. Leave a day empty on the weekend if you can to help you recharge, get some self-care in and do what will bring you joy!
When you say “no” you say YES to things you actually want to do. Stop over committing!
3. Do Things You ACTUALLY Want to Do
Do not do things this holiday season because you feel like you HAVE to. We all know when you’re at an event or doing something you don’t want to do. That energy is a downer and contagious.
Instead do things that will make you happy and bring more joy to you this holiday season.
Personally, I know what I want to buy as gifts but I don’t like to shop. I spend my time tuning it to find the perfect gift and I hire someone to do the actual shopping and wrapping – things that don’t bring me joy so I can have the time and energy for FUN.
4. Have Fun!
Let’s get back to the basics – the holidays are supposed to be a time of joy and fun. Do things that will bring you joy. Things that will create memories you will look back at fondly.
What are some things that will be fun for YOU – not everyone around you but for YOU – to do this holiday season? Do it!
5. Take Time for Yourself
Self-care is KEY to balance this holiday season and stay HEALTHY.
It can be simple and free or high end pampering, you get to decide:
The energy you give is the energy you receive. And remember, you don’t have to take on anyone else’s energy – that helps no one.
Put the tips above into place this holiday season so you are showing up from a place of power and joy, not a place of exhaustion and irritation. May your holiday season be filled with love and joy this year and in years to come!
Here’s a 5 minute guided meditation I created to help you calm and balance your energy at any time of the day!
Lisa Gornall is a Spiritual Medium, Healer and Coach. She is also an author, speaker and offers event support and coaching program support for your clients.
Lisa uses her intuitive abilities to coach career driven women at or near their breaking point to reset.
Get your head, energy and life on point. Let’s get back to that freedom lifestyle you originally envisioned! Reset.
How to balance it all so you can actually have it all!
What I hear from successful, high-level entrepreneurs, they:
Don’t feel they have it all
Worried all the time about work, retirement, family, friends
Not focused on what they have – constantly focused on next goal
Overwhelmed, exhausted, feel trapped in this lifestyle
Successful entrepreneurs out there – do you FEEL like you have it all?
The majority of people I talk to say, “No.” I find they are very focused on what they don’t have, even if they have 6+ figures sitting in the bank.
You cannot continue to up-level in your business with your Success Wound driving you.
Step 1 – What is Your Success Wound?
This is YOUR energetic drive for more. No matter how much money and success is already in your life – it is never enough.
Your Success Wound keeps PUSHING you to:
Make more
Create more
Do more
Be more
More, more, more
Can you relate to that? I bet you can!
Your Success Wound HAD a purpose. It did drive you and got you to where you are today.
Now:
You absolutely love your work, it is your PASSION.
You are overwhelmed & exhausted. There is no time or ENERGY for life outside of work.
You have more money, more success and more impact but something is “off”.
You are not fulfilled and definitely are not living the entrepreneur lifestyle you dreamed you would be living.
Your Success Wound PREVENTS you from enjoying your success. The drive that once fueled you is no longer working or supporting you in your goals. It now prevents you from ENJOYING YOUR SUCCESS.
Step 2 – 4 Ways to Create Balance & True Fulfillment in your Life
In all my calls and sessions through the years, these are the 4 areas that entrepreneurs are struggling with: time, relationships, abundance and energy.
# 1 – Reclaim Your Time
Funny how you become an entrepreneur to have control of what you do, when you do it and who you get to work with and then you don’t have enough time.
It is time to RECLAIM your TIME. You do this by:
Creating a work day schedule and sticking to it (no working outside those hours!)
Pause midday to eat lunch (not a working lunch with meetings and emails) but time to reflect on your day and course correct
Schedule in the people you want to spend time with
Schedule in a walk or exercise each day
Create a bedtime routine (you had one when you were younger and it worked!)
The problem is that when you try to cram too much into a day it literally feels like it flies by. By beginning and ending your day with routines that help you calm, center and balance your energy and implementing in some of the tips above, you won’t feel like time is rushing by you.
# 2 – Reclaim Your Relationships
The number one complaint I hear about is not having enough time, but when your relationships aren’t working or falling apart…this is when people come to me for support and guidance.
Relationships are important. They are your community and support. And if we’re being really honest, you do not want to be alone.
The problem so many successful entrepreneurs have is that so much energy goes into work, there is not enough time and energy left for anything else.
Make sure you are making time to:
Do things for you – things that nourish you and that you enjoy
Spend making memories with people you actually want to be around
Stop searching and find relationship fulfillment here.
# 3 – Reclaim Your Abundance & Inner Game
This is more than money – this is what drives you. This is where your Success Wound is constantly telling you that you need more, more, more!
Your abundance is typically driven by fears of not having enough, being enough, or doing enough. Here’s the thing, fears and abundance do not go together. Fears are coming from a place of lack and abundance comes from a place of plenty.
You have to get control of whatever is telling you that what you are doing is not enough, otherwise you will find yourself unfulfilled and burned out. You didn’t come this far to stop now. Reclaim your abundance mindset!
# 4 – Reclaim Your Energy
Yes, you are tired. Overwhelmed. Exhausted. At your breaking point. I know, I hear it ALL the time! This is how you know it is time to do something different. You cannot continue at this pace.
Listen to your body, it guides you and tells you when to rest, play, eat and work.
Stop trying to cram too much into your day. Create an energy work practice that supports you and helps you balance and center as needed throughout the day.
Step 3 – What is it ENERGETICALLY that keeps you operating from your Success Wound?
Your Success Wound starts in your CHILDHOOD.
Energetically you either:
Came in with this belief.
Your family taught you this belief.
Which is it for you?
What happened in YOUR life at an early age to create this drive?
What is the FIRST thing that pops into your mind? Is it that you had to PROVE yourself? Do you feel worthy? Do you feel like you are enough? Do you do enough?
How can you take care of yourself – not just external things but internal too. You have to become aware of the energy that is driving you. This is your why. But the question is – is this still valid?
Your success wound is showing up energetically in your life right now, in this moment.
Knowing what caused your success wound, how is it also affecting your:
Business
Relationships
Energy (worthy, enough, exhausted, overwhelmed)
It is important to get to the root of what is driving you to do more, create more, be more. More, more, more.
It is different for each person, but it usually stems around proving yourself. “I’ll show you.” Right? But since this is no longer working and supporting you, your business or those around you – it is time to LET IT GO.
Step 4 – How to HEAL your Success Wound
Your Success Wound had a purpose. It has gotten you to where you are today. This has been your drive but nothing you do is ENOUGH.
Your Success Wound is hurting you because nothing you do is enough and now you are feeling exhausted, overwhelmed and unfulfilled.
It is time to feel fulfilled, supported, happy and at peace with your accomplishments. You keep hitting goals and you’ve been so focused on what is next that you don’t realize where you are now. You do not appreciate your success, you focus on what you still have to do.
Appreciate where you are and where you came from. You have more money. You have more success. You have more impact.
Stop focusing on external things and focus on what is internally driving you. Give yourself permission to heal your Success Wound. It is time:
You can also check out this article I wrote with more details on 3 Self-Sabotaging Patterns that Cripple Your Revenue & Relationships. This is another layer of this article.
Now that you know what was driving you, you can name it, claim it and change it. Success can be fulfilling in ALL areas of your amazing life.
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Lisa Gornall is a Spiritual Medium, Healer and Coach. She is also an author, speaker and offers event support.
Lisa uses her intuitive abilities to coach career driven women at or near their breaking point to reset. Get your head, energy and life on point. Let’s get back to that freedom lifestyle you originally envisioned!
