The one you tell yourself on REPEAT that holds you back and keeps you from truly loving your life?
Perhaps it’s, “I’ll be happy after I crush this next goal.” Or, “My relationships don’t last because they keep ________.” Or, “I want to do fun things but I don’t have the time.”
Your story is an old pattern that you PULL into your life, usually when things are going well. It gives you permission to self-sabotage and pull yourself out of the abundance you are receiving. And it keeps you from loving this amazing life you’ve been so busy creating.
This old story doesn’t have to guide you anymore – unless you like being stuck and frustrated that nothing is changing – you have the power to create a new story.
How to Rewrite Your Story
You can’t create a new result with the old story. You have to let the old story go and write a new one and when something comes up where you’d tell yourself the old story, you have to tell yourself your new story instead.
What is your story?
What happens when you tell yourself this story?
What would you like to happen instead?
When things are going well and you start to fall into old patterns and start to self-sabotage:
STOP immediately. Catch yourself in the pattern and release it by saying, “I’m not doing this anymore.” Let the past go. You can take what you learned from the experience WITHOUT carrying the energy of the experience.
Focus on what is working well and be truly grateful for the amazing experiences that are happening in your life right now – like the thing you were just trying to self-sabotage. Being grateful brings you into the present moment and this is where your power is. Right here, right now!
Shift the energy that is creating your experiences. Create an energy practice to help you reduce your stress and have more balance. Energy affects everything. The better place you are in energetically, the less likely this old story will appear.
Rewrite your NEW story. When that old story appears, this is what you do:
Appreciate your experience, everything happens for a reason:
When __________happened, it was a journey for me to ____________. I am grateful for this experience. I let it go and I am free. Now I will only tell my NEW version of the story.
My NEW story is:
Because of ____________ (my experience) it allowed me to ___________ (grow, stand in my power, express myself, etc.). I am stronger because of this experience and now I can _______ (what good came to you because of your experience).
I am____________.
Going forward, focus on the positive from the experience. What you learned, what skills you now take with you, and how you are a better person because of this. If any negativity comes up, you have more clearing and letting go to do until you can tell the story without falling back onto the pain, hurt, etc.
What new story will you write today?
Just because you’ve been following an old story doesn’t mean it is the right story for you anymore. You can shift and create a new story for any scenario in your life at any time. All you have to do is be ready!
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Lisa Gornall is a Spiritual Medium, Healer and Coach. She is also an author, speaker and offers event support and coaching program support for your clients.
Lisa uses her intuitive abilities to coach successful women at or near their breaking point to reset. Get your head, energy and life on point. Let’s get back to that freedom lifestyle you originally envisioned! Reset.
Entrepreneurs are special people. They are driven, innovative and adaptive.
The problem is that most entrepreneurs find they aren’t really enjoying the amazing life they’re creating because work goes from being a passion to being everything without even realizing it.
They also get stuck in the mindset they had when they started their business and don’t acknowledge how far they’ve come.
What got you to 6 figures energetically will not get you to 7+ figures.
There are 3 Self-Sabotaging Patterns at the heart of your Success Wound that I see driving every successful entrepreneur that cripple your revenue and relationships. Get objective and look at what is driving you. Are you proving:
1. I Am Worthy
Do you find yourself trying to prove that you are worthy in your work and relationships:
Trying to please other people
You feel better spending money on other people than yourself
Put others needs above your own
Do lots of work for free or low balling it, trying to prove your worth and not feeling like you’re succeeding
2. I Am Enough
Do you find yourself trying to prove that you are enough in your work and relationships:
Buying yourself stuff isn’t the problem, you struggle with enjoying it – buyers remorse
You can put your needs first but find you can’t meet them
Doesn’t matter what goals you crush, the moment you meet it, you’re onto the next one. It’s like you’re on a never-ending hamster wheel and its exhausting…you don’t ever feel like you’re enough or you’re doing enough
3. I Am Love
Do you find yourself trying to prove that you are love in your work and relationships:
In relationships, you don’t feel loved or appreciated and you’re constantly seeking it
You feel bad when others buy you stuff. You may even find you can be an emotional shopper.
By putting others needs above your own you feel resentful and empty and have no energy left. Seeking love makes you feel needy and desperate in work and relationships
Reclaim Your Power
While these beliefs can drive you to increase your income at first as you are proving yourself, they become what limits your income and relationships because they aren’t creating the happiness you are seeking ANYWHERE.
You reach a point where you become a slave to the drive that is pushing you to be worthy, enough and/or love.
Your work becomes a place where you can prove “I am worthy. I am enough. I am love.” but you don’t feel better or heal this without doing the work within because even when you HAVE the money, impact and success you don’t feel like you have it!
You have to get to the root of what is driving you, nothing external will fix this long term:
Energy cannot be manipulated.
What you think and believe, you become.
I am worthy. I am enough. I am love. These are your Universal Truths. Anything telling you otherwise, has to go. It’s time to energetically heal it and allow it to be your truth. You don’t have to prove you are these things because you ARE.
Abundance is a focus on plenty and enough for everyone, not LACK.
If you are successful, you are successful.
BUT if you think you are successful and a minute later think you don’t have any money coming in and I’m going to lose everything or not be able to retire – that’s the energy you are creating. You cripple your revenue with energy stagnation. Stop putting the brakes on your abundance, this is messing with your money, time, relationships and energy.
How to Stop Self-Sabotaging Your Success
You can continue to scale your business without being driven to exhaustion anymore.
This constant drive to achieve more, do more, prove more is what I call your Success Wound and you can learn how to heal it here.
You are worthy. You are enough. You are love. Create an energy practice that you do everyday! This will help you connect with these crucial “I am” statements and create a shift in your income and relationships.
Reclaim your abundance mindset. You are an abundant being living in an abundant Universe. Stop believing anything less.
You have the power to make as much or as little money, impact and success as you would like. You can enjoy it or you can continue to operate from a place of lack.
Lack is a choice you no longer have to choose. Choose to live and focus on what you have and what you are, these are truths and they will change your revenue and relationships for the better: I am worthy. I am enough. I am love.
If you would like a daily reference guide to help you reclaim your time, relationships, inner game and energy, you can get it here.
Lisa Gornall is a Spiritual Medium, Healer and Coach. She is also an author, speaker and offers event support.
Lisa uses her intuitive abilities to coach career driven women at or near their breaking point to reset. Get your head, energy and life on point. Let’s get back to that freedom lifestyle you originally envisioned!
How to balance it all so you can actually have it all!
What I hear from successful, high-level entrepreneurs, they:
Don’t feel they have it all
Worried all the time about work, retirement, family, friends
Not focused on what they have – constantly focused on next goal
Overwhelmed, exhausted, feel trapped in this lifestyle
Successful entrepreneurs out there – do you FEEL like you have it all?
The majority of people I talk to say, “No.” I find they are very focused on what they don’t have, even if they have 6+ figures sitting in the bank.
You cannot continue to up-level in your business with your Success Wound driving you.
Step 1 – What is Your Success Wound?
This is YOUR energetic drive for more. No matter how much money and success is already in your life – it is never enough.
Your Success Wound keeps PUSHING you to:
Make more
Create more
Do more
Be more
More, more, more
Can you relate to that? I bet you can!
Your Success Wound HAD a purpose. It did drive you and got you to where you are today.
Now:
You absolutely love your work, it is your PASSION.
You are overwhelmed & exhausted. There is no time or ENERGY for life outside of work.
You have more money, more success and more impact but something is “off”.
You are not fulfilled and definitely are not living the entrepreneur lifestyle you dreamed you would be living.
Your Success Wound PREVENTS you from enjoying your success. The drive that once fueled you is no longer working or supporting you in your goals. It now prevents you from ENJOYING YOUR SUCCESS.
Step 2 – 4 Ways to Create Balance & True Fulfillment in your Life
In all my calls and sessions through the years, these are the 4 areas that entrepreneurs are struggling with: time, relationships, abundance and energy.
# 1 – Reclaim Your Time
Funny how you become an entrepreneur to have control of what you do, when you do it and who you get to work with and then you don’t have enough time.
It is time to RECLAIM your TIME. You do this by:
Creating a work day schedule and sticking to it (no working outside those hours!)
Pause midday to eat lunch (not a working lunch with meetings and emails) but time to reflect on your day and course correct
Schedule in the people you want to spend time with
Schedule in a walk or exercise each day
Create a bedtime routine (you had one when you were younger and it worked!)
The problem is that when you try to cram too much into a day it literally feels like it flies by. By beginning and ending your day with routines that help you calm, center and balance your energy and implementing in some of the tips above, you won’t feel like time is rushing by you.
# 2 – Reclaim Your Relationships
The number one complaint I hear about is not having enough time, but when your relationships aren’t working or falling apart…this is when people come to me for support and guidance.
Relationships are important. They are your community and support. And if we’re being really honest, you do not want to be alone.
The problem so many successful entrepreneurs have is that so much energy goes into work, there is not enough time and energy left for anything else.
Make sure you are making time to:
Do things for you – things that nourish you and that you enjoy
Spend making memories with people you actually want to be around
Stop searching and find relationship fulfillment here.
# 3 – Reclaim Your Abundance & Inner Game
This is more than money – this is what drives you. This is where your Success Wound is constantly telling you that you need more, more, more!
Your abundance is typically driven by fears of not having enough, being enough, or doing enough. Here’s the thing, fears and abundance do not go together. Fears are coming from a place of lack and abundance comes from a place of plenty.
You have to get control of whatever is telling you that what you are doing is not enough, otherwise you will find yourself unfulfilled and burned out. You didn’t come this far to stop now. Reclaim your abundance mindset!
# 4 – Reclaim Your Energy
Yes, you are tired. Overwhelmed. Exhausted. At your breaking point. I know, I hear it ALL the time! This is how you know it is time to do something different. You cannot continue at this pace.
Listen to your body, it guides you and tells you when to rest, play, eat and work.
Stop trying to cram too much into your day. Create an energy work practice that supports you and helps you balance and center as needed throughout the day.
Step 3 – What is it ENERGETICALLY that keeps you operating from your Success Wound?
Your Success Wound starts in your CHILDHOOD.
Energetically you either:
Came in with this belief.
Your family taught you this belief.
Which is it for you?
What happened in YOUR life at an early age to create this drive?
What is the FIRST thing that pops into your mind? Is it that you had to PROVE yourself? Do you feel worthy? Do you feel like you are enough? Do you do enough?
How can you take care of yourself – not just external things but internal too. You have to become aware of the energy that is driving you. This is your why. But the question is – is this still valid?
Your success wound is showing up energetically in your life right now, in this moment.
Knowing what caused your success wound, how is it also affecting your:
Business
Relationships
Energy (worthy, enough, exhausted, overwhelmed)
It is important to get to the root of what is driving you to do more, create more, be more. More, more, more.
It is different for each person, but it usually stems around proving yourself. “I’ll show you.” Right? But since this is no longer working and supporting you, your business or those around you – it is time to LET IT GO.
Step 4 – How to HEAL your Success Wound
Your Success Wound had a purpose. It has gotten you to where you are today. This has been your drive but nothing you do is ENOUGH.
Your Success Wound is hurting you because nothing you do is enough and now you are feeling exhausted, overwhelmed and unfulfilled.
It is time to feel fulfilled, supported, happy and at peace with your accomplishments. You keep hitting goals and you’ve been so focused on what is next that you don’t realize where you are now. You do not appreciate your success, you focus on what you still have to do.
Appreciate where you are and where you came from. You have more money. You have more success. You have more impact.
Stop focusing on external things and focus on what is internally driving you. Give yourself permission to heal your Success Wound. It is time:
You can also check out this article I wrote with more details on 3 Self-Sabotaging Patterns that Cripple Your Revenue & Relationships. This is another layer of this article.
Now that you know what was driving you, you can name it, claim it and change it. Success can be fulfilling in ALL areas of your amazing life.
Get this free 3 Part Video Series to help you reclaim control of your time, relationships, abundance and energy.
Lisa Gornall is a Spiritual Medium, Healer and Coach. She is also an author, speaker and offers event support.
Lisa uses her intuitive abilities to coach career driven women at or near their breaking point to reset. Get your head, energy and life on point. Let’s get back to that freedom lifestyle you originally envisioned!
There are two things I hear from every successful entrepreneur I talk and work with:
You absolutely LOVE your work – it is your passion, sometimes your everything.
No matter how much money is FLOWING into your bank accounts – it isn’t enough.
You admit that you continue to make more and more money yet it just isn’t enough.
The question becomes why are YOU driven to acquire more money?
Is it from a place of fear – not having enough?
Or is it from a place of abundance – allowing more to flow in easily and effortlessly?
For most successful entrepreneurs, FEAR is in charge.
Your drive for success comes from a time when you did not have control or financial resources to help you. It could be from this life experience or another. Regardless of how, you have a strong drive to be completely independent.
You WORRY about:
Being okay financially
Having enough
FAILURE – Losing everything
Money – it just keeps you awake at night or wakes you up
Retirement
These are all FEARS.
Fears keep you in scarcity. They energetically have power over you.
You know fears are in control when you have money flowing in but it is NEVER enough.
No matter how much money is flowing into your bank account, you NEED more.
The problem is that from a place of fear and need, you create more fear and need – not abundance. You keep putting the gas on abundance then slamming on the break – here’s a video on this.
This place of need becomes a prison that you feel you cannot escape and it becomes your reality.
Let those fears go and regain control of your inner game!
What you create in your mind, you create around you. Balance begins by creating thoughts that are going to help you get where you would like to go.
Every thought you think and every word you use is creating your reality in this moment.
This moment shapes the next and things are put into motion and become reality without you even realizing it.
Pay attention to family patterns, thoughts and beliefs that are shaping your experiences and notice if they are still supporting you or if it is time for new ones.
How are fears and doubts limiting or preventing you by making you focus on what you don’t have instead of on what you DO HAVE?
3 Easy Practices to Reclaim Your Abundance Mindset
1. Be Grateful
Being grateful is the most powerful thing you can do to overcome your fears and doubts. It immediately puts you into the present moment and attracts more of these things into your life.
First pause.
Imagine stopping or freezing the thought – I don’t have enough.
Let that thought go and immediately be grateful for something you are truly grateful for in this moment (not what you think you SHOULD be grateful for) and you’ve reclaimed your power in that moment.
I am grateful for ____________.
2. Use “I am” Statements
“I am” is the most powerful thing you can say. Whatever comes after is what you create.
Think about it:
“I am struggling to pay my bills.” This makes you anxious, feel like you don’t have enough and it makes you see your bank account draining – not growing because it CAN pay all your bills easily and effortlessly.
“I am poor.” You’ll notice no matter what your bank account says, it is not enough. You don’t think you can spend your money on you without negating how you are spending it.
Try these instead:
“I am abundant.”
“I am whole.”
“I am free.”
“I am supported.”
3. Everyday Do an Abundance Energy Work Meditation
This meditation will help you allow abundance to flow into you and into everything around you (the best energy work practice because we are all one and connected.)
Consciously let abundance flow into you and let go of anything that is blocking it.
Bring the White Light through the crown of your head, into your feet, and into the Earth. It is a steady stream and you feel safe, comfortable, and at peace.
Let go of any fears, limitations, or things that are blocking you at this moment. Release them to the Universe, push them out of your body, and then bring the White Light through your body again.
Imagine soft pink or soft green flowing into the front of your chest, into your arms and into everything around you.
Allow the energy to flow into your chest until it feels complete.
If you find yourself stopping the energy or feeling like it is too much, you have more letting go to do. Let go of whatever is limiting you and then imagine the soft pink or soft green flowing into your chest again.
Open your eyes when you are ready.
My clients, other successful female entrepreneurs, notice a huge difference when they do this exercise versus when they don’t because what you put out energetically comes back to you!
Practice this meditation in the morning before you get out of bed or at night before you go to sleep.
These 3 practices will help you shift your beliefs on money from fear to abundance.
From a place of abundance, you attract in more abundance.
Let’s energetically go with the flow of abundance and not upstream with fears about not having enough.
I am abundant.
If you would like a 5 minute guided, energy healing meditation to help you calm your mind down at night or to help you start your day, here is one for you.
Lisa Gornall is a Spiritual Medium, Healer and Coach. She is also an author, speaker and offers event support.
Lisa uses her intuitive abilities to coach career driven women at or near their breaking point to reset. Get your head, energy and life on point. Let’s get back to that freedom lifestyle you originally envisioned!
When you’re overwhelmed, you may not feel like you have the energy to create boundaries, you’re just trying to stay afloat. Energetically, this is the most important time to have them so that you can balance your energy and RECLAIM your power. When you are over-stressed, you aren’t doing your best work.
There are so many ways to create boundaries and through the years I have helped my clients create boundaries that are easy to implement and continue to use. Otherwise, if it’s too much work or too hard, you’re not going to do it.
One of the most important things that have helped my clients create boundaries is to realize what you are missing out on by not creating them. Every time you say YES to something, you are saying NO to something else. The no is usually to you and your self care because that is what will get pushed to the bottom of the priorities, after all there are only so many hours in the day.
Boundaries in the work place depend on your job and your actual job requirements. Many people often feel obligated to take on more work and for some it is part of the job.
Are you taking on too much?
How “on call” are you after hours? Is this required or something you do because you love to work or feel you have to?
How many hours constitute your work day? 8 hours? 10? 12? How long are you supposed to work and how long do you work? Are they part of your job or do you take them on because you feel you have to?
When you leave work, do you actually leave work or are you still working?
Do you take a lunch or do you feel you have so much work to do that you have to work through it?
How do you feel in your work environment? What does your relationships with your co-workers look like?
How easily do you fall asleep on your own at night? This is a very important question! Can you fall asleep on your own or do you need help to fall asleep because you can’t shut your mind off because you are so focused on your work?
What changes are within your power at work to create? Do you want to make any changes?
Easy boundaries to create at work to take care of YOU:
Take your LUNCH. It gives you time to fuel your body, check in with anything outside of work and it gives you space to re energize and come back to work re-focused.
Don’t check work email an hour before you go to bed. This gives you time to start a bedtime routine to help you fall asleep on your own.
Any ideas for the next day that are keeping you from sleeping, write them all down on a piece of paper and imagine them leaving your mind. You have them written down, you can access them again in the morning, assess their priority and add into your schedule as needed.
Pay attention to what you say yes to. When you take on extra tasks, why are you doing that? Does it help your career or is it just adding more to your plate and to do list. Remember, what are you going to say “no” to.
Stay away from workplace DRAMA. There are no winners in drama, it is an energy warp.
When you find yourself taking on other people’s energy, in your mind, say, “no thank you!” Do not build walls to “protect” yourself. I spend a lot of time helping people energetically remove those walls. Instead, imagine as their energy is coming at you energetically saying, “no thank you” and giving it back to them the same way they gave it to you.
Boundaries are totally up to you!
You tell people what is okay and what isn’t by the boundaries you draw. No one is going to tell you to work less, it’s up to you to you to figure out what boundaries are best for you in your role.
Here is a free 3 part video series to help you start creating balance in all areas of your life – your relationships, time, abundance and energy.
Lisa Gornall is a Spiritual Medium, Healer and Coach. She is also an author, speaker and offers event support.
Lisa uses her intuitive abilities to coach career driven women at or near their breaking point to reset. Get your head, energy and life on point. Let’s get back to that freedom lifestyle you originally envisioned!
How does your calendar look for the week? The month? As a Spiritual Medium, Healer & Coach I feel your pain, literally! So let’s focus this question and make it less overwhelming…
What does your work schedule look like today?
Chances are, your list is longer than the hours in your work day. Even by working more than 8 hours, your list will most likely not get completed today and things will get added that are unforeseen. The more you cram into each day hurts YOU!
You live in a society of go, go, go and over plan your days to the max…until you can’t any longer. Eventually you will burn out, if you haven’t already. Most people come to me when they have reached their breaking point but there are ways to stop this from happening.
Sometimes you have control over your schedule, sometimes you don’t but there are things within your day that you DO have control over.
The question is: Are you READY to live and work in a more balanced way?
As crazy as this may seem, you get to choose how overworked you are. You absolutely do!
You know where your current path is going to lead you. You have heard the saying, “No one ever says on their deathbed that they wished they worked more.” Since I can see and talk with spirits, I can absolutely verify this from before they cross over, during their transition and after they have crossed over. They never wish they worked more or had more money. Ever! Once they cross over, they wonder why we do what we do, the irony! They wish they had spent their time better.
Your life is about your experiences, creating memories (because those you WILL take with you) and living your truth.
7 Tips to Help You Stop Cramming so Much into Your Workday:
Be REALISTIC with your daily schedule. Schedule in less than what you think you can actually accomplish and leave space for important last minute things that have to happen today.
LUNCH is important, so schedule it into your calendar! You will be so much more productive after you fuel your body and you take a little break from work.
PRIORITIZE. Complete the most important tasks first and the rest will be completed as it can be. You can intuitively tune in to see what is the most important thing each day. Each day, priorities change based upon your company’s demands.
FLOW through your day. When things come up, pause, breathe and let go of how you expected the day to go (this is why you leave space in your schedule!) The more you flow, the more you will accomplish.
Color code tasks so you can look at the day, week and month and see where things are out of whack so you can adjust your schedule as needed. This really helps you put each week and the whole month into perspective!
This one also carries into your personal life, say YESto things you actually want to do and NO to things you do not! You cannot be everything to everybody, it’s physically impossible. Do what you can and delegate the things you cannot.
Schedule time each day to BE. I know this sounds crazy with everything you are doing, but it is very important for you to create a space for you to connect with your body, mind, spirit and emotions. This will help keep you from feeling overwhelmed, it will give you space to put everything into perspective and help you refocus.
What can you start implementing right now to make your days more productive and balanced? If you need help getting your life back into balance, I’m just a message away!
Here is a free 3 part video series I did to help you reclaim your time, relationships, abundance and energy. Balance is possible in all areas of your life.
Lisa Gornall is a Spiritual Medium, Healer and Coach. She is also an author, speaker and offers event support.
Lisa uses her intuitive abilities to coach career driven women at or near their breaking point to reset. Get your head, energy and life on point. Let’s get back to that freedom lifestyle you originally envisioned!
